Disability Blog Carnival #63: Relationships (February 2010 edition)

[avendya]

We're hosting the 63rd disability blog carnival, and the theme is relationships.

This does not necessarily mean romantic relationships - how has your disability affected your relationship with your family? How do you manage balancing friendships with a limited number of spoons? How well do your coworkers deal with your disability?

If you haven't been or identified as disabled for your whole life, how did becoming/identifying disabled change your relationships? How does your disability affect your expression of your sexuality? What kinds of things do you wish your friends/significant other(s)/family understood better? How do your friends and family make your life better, even if you're running low on spoons? Basically, how does your disability impact (or not impact) your relationships with the people around you?

Submissions are due February 20th. I'll have the roundup post up by February 23rd. To submit a post, just leave a link in the comments of this post - anonymous comments are allowed - or email me at avendya@gmail.com. (Note: if you're a Blogger user, you can use OpenID to login and to sign your comments. Here's how.)

Your submissions do not have to be new posts. Feel free to submit older essays or posts; however, I'd prefer if they have not previously been submitted to the disability blog carnival. (If it's been submitted to other blog carnivals, it's still fair game.) The carnival is open to both people with disabilities and allies.

To subscribe to the community, you can use RSS or email. If you use Dreamwidth, you can subscribe to the community or add a notification for all blog carnival related posts (tagged "disability blog carnival").

I'd really like to see both the Dreamwidth and Blogger based disability communities submit posts. Most previous carnivals seem to be dominated by people who use Blogger, but I know there are lots of insightful disabled Dreamwidth users.

For more information and for links to previous blog carnivals, check out the Disability Studies blog. Last month's carnival was on holidays.

Comments

[From: (Anonymous)]

http://snarkyleigh.blogspot.com/2009/08/ablist-attitudes-and-more.html

everything she does is beautiful

[From: (Anonymous)]

http://lifeofthedifferentlyabled.wordpress.com/2010/01/21/everything-she-does-is-beautiful/

[From: (Anonymous)]

http://coldsnapdragon.blogspot.com/2010/01/what-disability-teaches.html

[From: linkspam_mod]

Your post has been included in a Linkspam Roundup.

[From: (Anonymous)]

http://shadowlight8.wordpress.com/

Disability Blog Carnival 63

[From: (Anonymous)]

http://www.leftybydefault.com/2010/02/13/well-matched/

Thanks!
Laura

submission

[From: feministswithfsd.wordpress.com]

http://feministswithfsd.wordpress.com/2010/02/13/valentines-sex-fest-or-not/

[From: dechant]

http://dechant.dreamwidth.org/64321.html

Panic disorder, flying, and having family overseas. Rather a disaster.

[From: dorianisms]

I think this fits the theme, at least:

http://dorianisms.wordpress.com/2010/02/03/truthillusion/

[From: avendya]

I'm having issues accessing your website - could you check to make sure it's up & working? (It could be a problem at my end, but I'm not having issues with any other websites.)

[From: dorianisms]

I think Wordpress has been down for much of the afternoon--I can't access any other blogs that are on it right now either.

Timing kind of sucks...

[From: avendya]

The carnival probably won't go up until the 23rd, because I am completely swamped with work (this was really bad timing on my part), so hopefully at that point Wordpress will be back up.

[From: dorianisms]

Looks like it's back up now, actually. Thank goodness, I missed it.

[From: avendya]

By the way -- I'm also Beszel on Tumblr, in case you were wondering who the random person following you was.

[From: recessional]

http://recessional.dreamwidth.org/54623.html

[From: (Anonymous)]

http://modusdopens.wordpress.com/2010/02/04/de-centering-non-disability-part-4/

[From: recessional]

. . . . er.

*points to self* Major chronic depression, post-traumatic stress-disorder, self-diagnosed Aspergers. So were you meaning to post that to me, or are you stating that self-diagnosis is prohibited?

Thoughts on Interable Love at a Breaking Point

[From: (Anonymous)]

Check out "Thoughts on Interable Love at a Breaking Point" by Crip Confessions - an uppity crip sexologist.

http://cripconfessions.com/archives/1

Looking forward to your thoughts!

xoxo

Passing As Ethics is a World

[From: forroad]

http://adeepercountry.blogspot.com/2010/02/passing-as-ethics-or-whatever.html

Re: Passing As Ethics is a World

[From: forroad]

oh and it's basically about how my defense mechanisms/internalized rules for acting "normal"/insecurity about being ASD screw up my friendships more than my actual ASD. because it's sort of a parody and it might be hard to tell what it's about by glancing at it.

[From: (Anonymous)]

http://ballastexistenz.autistics.org/?p=602

The Summer Thing

[From: codeman38]

I'm doing something a little different this time around. Because this year's theme is relationships, not only have I posted to my blog, but my girlfriend has written a guest post as well.

Here are the URLs for the two posts:

Autistic Thoughts on Autistic Relationships
Guest Post: Misinformed Autism Awareness Doesn’t Just Hurt Autistics

[From: (Anonymous)]

http://autisticcats.blogspot.com/2010/02/autistic-relationships-some-thoughts.html

Trying again because the OpenID thing doesn't seem to work for me...

[From: (Anonymous)]

I hope it isn't too late for me to submit my post (it took me rather longer than i thought it would to finish it), but it's here: http://biodiverseresistance.blogspot.com/2010/02/one-way-friendships.html

Re: Trying again because the OpenID thing doesn't seem to work for me...

[From: avendya]

You are not too late - it's still the 20th for me - and I am glad you took the time to write your post, as I've been thinking about a lot of the same things. (I will attempt to put stuff into words to respond to it, but basically - I feel like that as well, I am not neurotypical, but I am not autistic-spectrum. I feel like my friendships with neurotypical people are more one-way than my friendships with neuroatypical people, and I'm not sure why.)

[From: killing_rose]

http://killing-rose.dreamwidth.org/60369.html

And because a large part of my relationships are about sidestepping the issues of why I'm not always okay, this was what I came up with.

(It's the 20th here for 6 more minutes...)

[From: avendya]

Thank for submitting! You're in plenty of time - it's still the 20th for nearly three hours here.

[From: rb]

I know this is way too late but now you know how slack I am at reading posts!

I have a whole blog about relationships if you'd like to mention it - it's about the emotional part of relationships between PWD and paid carers and we'd love new stories sumbitted so having signal-boost would be great if I'm not tooooooooooo late (which I realise I probably am). The URL is http://notjustwork.info/

Thanks,
r

[From: (Anonymous)]

Flashman (http://www.oggsplosh.com/flashman-books/)is cool

Disability

[From: (Anonymous)]

A developmental disability which significantly affects verbal and non-verbal communication and social interaction, generally evident before the age of 3 that adversely affects educational performance. Other characteristics are repetitive activities, stereotyped movements, resistance to environmental changes, change in daily routines, and unusual responses to sensory behavioral disorder.
http/www.j.minstitute.in

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[From: (Anonymous)]

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